Accepting things as they are and being OK with it is a statement implicitly about me, not the event or the situation. Whatever it is is a physical fact in the world and our opinion alone does not change it.
What “every thing” is it that will be OK when we say, “Everything will be OK?”
The phrase, “Everything will be OK,” is a vague and sometimes irritating consolation if we’re not in the mood. But it does work.
Pain also has the terrifying characteristic of making us imagine that it will last forever. We can’t imagine how or when the terrible feeling might stop because we feel incapable of stopping it ourselves, nor see the conditions under which it might do so itself.
Let us suppose that I have decided to buy a new pair of pants, and that I have recently seen a nice pair worn by a man in the street, and the same ones in only one particular shop window.
Whether we like it or not, whether we take responsibility for our part in it or not, everything that happens is in a sense “supposed” to happen given the existing preconditions and the interaction between them.
Reassuring ourselves the “Everything in the world is exactly the way it’s supposed to be” presumes to state that events in the world are directed by intelligent design, but this supposition is not an essential requirement if we think about the whole sentence in a slightly different and more accommodating way.
Maybe women are inherently more sensible, or able to align themselves more peacefully with the true facts of their lives to suffer the despairs of a mid-life crisis.
I can quite willing agree to any host of propositions, but the challenge is in the willing acceptance of it if it threatens the whole preconception I have of myself.
There are many aspects of our character and numerous events in our past that we just do not want to face. We might declare that we don’t see the necessity of it, or the reason for it.
An inventory of those relationships about which we feel most discomfort will reveal to us the true nature of our world as we have constructed it. It is predicated on a simple idea.