In surrendering the illusion that we are in control we must take the greatest risk of all. We might assume that if and when we do so that the very fabric of our lives will unravel, and that all order and direction and purpose to our lives will fall apart.
And if we struggle to impose our will and preferences on the world now, is it not even less likely if we give up our attempts to do so? If we do not pay care and attention to those things that we feel we need and require in life, then who or what – which agent of means and authority – will take care of us? These are important concerns, but the parameters we use to generate them and assess their consequences are wrong. Also, if I may put it somewhat indelicately, they’re irrelevant.
Whether your concerns are valid or not doesn’t change anything; you are still powerless.