A lack of honesty and clarity of thought is an issue that we must face bravely throughout the writing of any inventory. It is especially pertinent with regard to our consideration of the reason we might give for any resentment and the actual truth of it. “He’s an arsehole” does not tell us much about what he actually did to make us draw such a conclusion. It does not give us much to analyse, and therefore a commensurately drawn conclusion about our true part in the situation – “I don’t like arseholes” – is not going to be very illuminating. The result of such a perfunctory approach is that every “truth” would be a mirror image of the resentment; a simple, self-centred and aggrandising statement that declared that our only part in any situation or resentment was that we simply didn’t like what someone else was doing. Well of course we don’t; you’re a genius. What, by the way, were you actually doing?