Much is often made of the circumstances of our birth and childhood in the forming of character and personality. Importance is placed on the nurturing and upbringing provided to us by our parents and the opportunities they have given us, and whether these formative years can be thought of as happy and secure. While this is true, I would suggest that a lot of what can be described as our character and identity has been forged and defined also by what we have been through as an independent and self-propelled adult. Many of our behavioural patterns and instinctual responses to external events are learned from our own prior experiences and their subsequent outcomes. This applies not only to the challenges we have faced and the failures we have experienced, but the successes also. This subject is the remit of our moral inventory.
Let us review not only the methodology we have used to cope with the challenges and difficulties we faced, but determine the reasoning we applied and assumptions we made when responding and reacting to those events. Whether they were natural reactions, acquired responses, justified solutions, or unavoidable choices, your responsibility for them remains the same. It has defined your relationship with others, and with the world. The simple fact that you have often not taken responsibility for them, not done so because you were not consciously aware of them, or done so but in an oblique and disingenuous manner, is of course part of the problem.